When on-call became a question about children
The role came with on-call demands. During an on-site interview, /u/Every-Butterscotch96 says the interviewers stressed availability. Then one interviewer moved from the work to a future the candidate had not described:
“How are you going to manage this role if you get married and have kids”
The author says male candidates were asked situational questions instead. HR had already praised her relevant internship experience and enthusiasm. The interview had evidence about the work. What she did when it turned to marriage and children is in the full account.
The account puts two assessments side by side. Male candidates, the author says, were asked situational questions about handling disagreements with stakeholders; she was asked how a future marriage and children would affect the role.
The contrast matters because the interviewers had stressed on-call availability. Instead of asking how the candidate would meet that requirement, one interviewer made an imagined family part of the discussion.
HR had already praised her relevant internship experience and enthusiasm. The interviewer’s question shifted attention away from the evidence she brought for the role and towards a personal future.